When It Comes to Painful Emotions, Don’t Think — Just Feel
Benevolent honesty is an alternative to what I call “cognitive elusion,” the tendency to escape into our head as a way to avoid painful emotions, concerns, and anxieties and/or heal old traumas by doggedly trying to rationalize or explain them away. Cognitive elusion is a “discomfort detour” that often results in a “resilience roadblock” for one simple reason: Distress affects much more than our thoughts.